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Posted on Sep 22, 2006 at 09:19 PM

I know this is the internet and you can be whom ever you choose to create, but what's the point if you really want to meet people? I've only met one person through this site who isn't completely full of it. I don't want to offend anyone, I'm sure there are plenty of you out there who are straight about who you are and what you want- this is only the experience I've had so far. It's really frusterating, knowing that I am exactly what I say I am, and I'm very clear on what I want. Only to spend months chatting with people who turn out to be nothing more than a huge waste of time. What I really want to know is if other people have encountered this problem, and if so, how do you keep from just giving up? I'm very new to all of this and with the exception of the one friend I've made, this has mostly been a disaster. I chose this site because I thought that it was very well put together, and looked like a place that I could utilize to make some new friends and chat with other like-minded people. I just wish people could be themselves. Thank you for letting me vent and taking the time to read about my experiances so far, hopefully next time I'll have more positive news to report. Good luck everyone!

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Posted on Jan 24, 2015 at 03:06 AM

I so much agree. I have been searching and paying all different sitrs and no results. I have no clue how to meet females this is my first time.  Wow any advice


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Posted on Jan 20, 2007 at 03:41 AM

I really am sorry about all of your feelings. I belong to four different sites. There are fakes and real people in all of them. It just takes time to find the right ones. PS If you'd quit lookin for plastic Ken and Barbie you just might find that there are real people out there. Any way plastic don't return the pleasure.

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Posted on Jan 19, 2007 at 01:14 AM

Wow, as someone who just joined it was a bit disappointing to see this blog came up under the ???most popular??? listing- not so much for the issues brought up, but for the negativity and resentment. To offer encouragement, my only online dating experience was just one day a few years back , seeing a profile and feeling intensely moved to write. I hesitated when I found out I???d have to pay just to write this one person, but if felt right. She had the profile on for a long time, never bothered with the people who had responded to it, and forgot it. She wrote me back though, and after a couple of e-mail exchanges, she invited me to accompany her and her aunt whose husband had just been diagnosed with cancer to a church service since it was a few blocks from where I lived. This intrigued me since she was Buddhist. Anyway that went well and we got a bite to eat and met some of her friends out the same night, and eventually ended up being in a relationship for a year- and she turned out to be bi too. I think what made that work was I had no expectations, and therefore no seeds for resentment to grow. The church made sense, was a safe place and good test- and for my part if she didn???t show up it would be fine because I was curious to check it out since I see people bused in from all over the city to go. Why not choose a place for you and bring people along so if someone flakes, you are not disappointed? And I feel sorry for that one friend you made, that finding a new friendship wasn???t good enough. And don???t we meet liars and flakes outside e-world as well? I have friends that are liars and manipulators, but I can still say they are friends because of setting the appropriate boundaries to take care of myself, and seeing them as they are so I get to keep check on my expectations. On a bi website, I imagine part of the complication begins with how we define our identity, and whether we are out or not, or how out we are. Is it by fantasy, attraction, or action that we define our identity? One may have same-sex fantasy???s or attractions, and feel they are bi-sexual, but for whatever reason things don???t pan out when it comes to action. We are complex beings, and most of us are in homophobic environments that complicates life more. Why not have some compassion for ???fakes,??? as maybe their external circumstances and internalized homophobia only permits them to be free in a fantasy world? That makes me sad anyway. Maybe we can request the administrators of the website could automatically kick of non-paying accounts after a month of inactivity, or perhaps shorter? And how do you know someone is not writing you back because they're just not into you? I think there is book about that, good enough to make it on Oprah if that means anything. Most of you complaining are older, your experience could a product not growing up with interneT. To the poster who can???t handle getting a number and not getting called back when using it. I think what really helped me was agreeing to a series of blind dates a friend set me up on- one of them the girl took one look at me and avoided me the whole night. It???s important to not take rejection too personally, especially men. I can???t believe how many men I???ve met who are a little bit vulnerable, get crushed, and end up with all this sexism and hatred for women. Unfortunately some people aren???t confidant enough to just outright reject you, to honor their feelings and express them. And sometimes we change our minds and moods. Even if I do not get responses to my profile, I don???t care- just going through the process of putting a profile up, getting the confidence to put pictures out there feels good and can only lead to something more positive than the last few months. I hope to continue to cleanse all of my family???s and society???s garbage about being queer out of my system, and be even more out at work to challenge people???s homophobia and heterosexism. I hope you all follow your longing, your desiring expansion somewhere, before you shrivel in bitterness... On a lighter note, anyone see ???Short Bus???? best movie I???ve seen recently!

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Posted on Dec 29, 2006 at 11:24 AM

I just signed up on this site so if contacted I will respond. On other sites the only guys that contact me are listed as straight.No one knows anything about you that you don't tell them so why do people shave a few years and some pounds if your going to meet and be exposed. Being honest is the only way to be happy

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Posted on Dec 25, 2006 at 12:48 PM

I agree with your comments. There are so many fakes out there, I wish it wasn't like that.

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Posted on Dec 16, 2006 at 12:15 PM

Have to agree with you! Have encountered the exact same thing! Hoping that there are some bi woman out there that really do want to be with a attractive couple. Good luck in your search honey!

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Posted on Nov 27, 2006 at 06:34 PM

Frankiev - with reference to your statement below; BUT NO ONE IS GIVING OUT THEIR EMAIL ADDRESS AND OR PHONE NUMBER TO BE CONTACTED BY. On every occassion - I provide the above noted - and todate 2 response! which is something - rather than noting!! - but as such I dont plan on hanging around and wont be re-newing my membership & with time my profile will be gone "poof"... Nevertheless, I hope the rest of you guys are succsseful in your searches etc... dlick

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Posted on Nov 25, 2006 at 06:43 PM

Never a true-a statement made by yourself & othersw my dear... Why or Why do folk complete profiles and disappear! "poof" gone! Whats the point? You send out an e-mail with a pleasant smile etc... and U dont get any responses! - We all needa a little love - sometimes - i aint getting no love via this site & i fear I may well dissapear real soon - "poof" gone...

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Posted on Nov 25, 2006 at 06:34 PM

"Never a true word, or should i note a numer of words said" (as noted by yourself's) Why oh why... do folk complete their profile and disappear! poof! "gone"! - they may a well be 'as they sure dont reply to their e-mail(s) We all wanna live a little & love a little, I sure aint getting any love on this site! or well...

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Posted on Nov 24, 2006 at 07:18 AM

hello everyone here. EVERYONE is complaining about fakes,,,WHICH IS A BIG CONCERN. SO TO ALL THE GIRLS AND GUYS THAT CLAIM THAT THEY ARE (NOT FAKES),,. LEAVE SOME SORT OF INDICATION HERE THAT YOU WILL BE WILLING TO TALK AND THEN ACTUALLY DO IT

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Posted on Nov 24, 2006 at 07:14 AM

hello everyone here. EVERYONE is complaining about fakes,,,WHICH IS A BIG CONCERN. BUT NO ONE IS GIVING OUT THEIR EMAIL ADDRESS AND OR PHONE NUMBER TO BE CONTACTED BY.

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Posted on Nov 23, 2006 at 04:10 AM

Unfortunatly, most sites are like this one. People fill out a profile and never come back. Send them an e-mail and you never go any further. I thought this site would be different. We are all bi looking for other bi's...where are you all.

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Posted on Nov 10, 2006 at 08:10 AM

You are right on target young lady.These people who pay to be on the site and don,t ever meet when you make a time and place are phonies they might as well take a match and burn their money if they do not have a better use for it.Most of them just want to cyber sex with you i guess that turns them on.I use to pay but i won,t anymore until i get people that want to meet and have a circle of friends that can have some fun.

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Posted on Oct 25, 2006 at 12:29 AM

After reading all your testimonials, Im really just amazed that people can be so cruel to one another through any means whether its a guy cutting you off on the highway or even the fakes on this site. If I only was able to have read this, I know I would not have renewed my membership. Why do people waste their time and everyone else's by placing their info and to not pursue anything out of it? Im still going to be optimistic that I will find a great girl to spend my time with. If your out there, I hope to find you.

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Posted on Oct 23, 2006 at 12:08 AM

I feel U!!! If any long timers r still out there!! i have been saying what u r saying rite now 4 years!!!! I was a gold member 4 sumtime on this web page and had a few leads, but nothing came of any of it. Im not fake!! hit me up! lets meet!! I like 2 play and i like my hubby 2 play as well! So hit me up!! Lets quit b.s'ing!! If it all sounds good I'll renew my membership and contact u!!! or how ever!! leave me sum contact info and i'll get in touch with u!! I am not a joke!!! SO nobody elsr be!!

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Posted on Oct 22, 2006 at 12:44 PM

I found this site from yahoo groups and thought i would try it out.. really hoping to meet a nice girl.. someone real, someone who can keep a conversation, but also wants to do more than just chat online, who wants to actually meet

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Posted on Oct 21, 2006 at 09:02 PM

Werd up, sister. I've had enough of the posers and the game players and the nonsense. I just want to meet a nice woman and go out on a fun date or 5 or 10. What's so difficult about that? Best of luck to you finding someone that makes you happy~

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Posted on Sep 25, 2006 at 03:33 AM

Almost every sight like this is packed full of non responding, and "couples" with the woman who can never participate, and lying cheating husbands. Guess it must be the predominate human nature.I can tell you, we have no intention of renewing our membership on this sight for sure. Good luck in your search.

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