Married and bi - does your partner know? Bisexual questions Forward to friends

  • View author's info Author Posted on Jul 19, 2012 at 03:24 AM


    Are you bisexual and married/in a relationship? If so, does your partner know and does he/she care? Is your partner supportive, disgusted, excited, horrified, or whatever? Does he/she join in or want to join in with your activities?
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  • View author's info Posted on Jun 23, 2018 at 06:48 AM


    I've been upfront and honest about who I am with my husband forever. It is a part of me and he doesn't want to change a thing about it or who I am. He says he thinks it is beautiful that I can love so openly and honestly, without barriers like others may have.

     

    I always figured it was best to be honest and if he couldn't handle it, then he can't love who I am cause that is who I am: a bisexual/pansexual woman.

     

    On the flip side, I just came out to my entire family this year. I had to learn to program myself to feel the same way with relatives etc. Don't get me wrong, it hasn't been easy but, it's pretty liberating to let that go into the open and just go on with life, even if you lose a few shaky relationships along the way.

  • View author's info Posted on Jun 10, 2018 at 10:03 PM


    I've been married for 4 years and just found oit that my husband is bi.  I've had my suspicions for years but he finally just came out.  I am very accepting and if anything, this has brought us closer together.  It was a huge weight off of his shoulders telling me and he was so happy about how accepting I was of this.  Still waiting on our first experience but having fun looking.

  • View author's info Posted on Jun 05, 2018 at 10:31 AM


    I had always indicated i was curious and it was never really an acceptable discussion. When things died int he bedroom for several years I went an explored on my own, discreetly and carefully. I also got left to watch porn on my own and there was never a question of interest.

     

    Recently i came out and confirmed that I am bi, but still prefer women .... She said she is okay with the knowledge and hasnt discussed since. 

     

    All I know is that I am on my own in this and try to play responsibly and discreetly as she still wants not to discuss, support or participate. She hasn't said as much but she avoids it as much as possible. ...

  • View author's info Posted on May 28, 2018 at 07:57 AM


    I'm bisexual and my wife knows.   Several years ago talking to each other we talked about early childhood experiences....something we had never discussed before.  We had done some swinging early on while experimenting but have not in many years.  We have been to many nudist resorts and love them. So we are open minded.

     

    In our discussion about childhood experiences I told her about some play experiences I had with another male childhood friend. I was 14 and he was 17.  It was all just exploration but included mutual stroking and eventually some oral play.

     

    My wife said it didn't surprise her and a lot of kids explore.  As we talked I told her that I had always been curious and turned on thinking what it would be like again.  After all, it felt good back then.  I told her I had fantasies about it.

     

    Although she was not interested, she was fine with me exploring my fantasies as long as she knew who and when and that it was done safely.

     

    I have met several bisexual couples and found I really enjoyed it.  On couple I continue to meet on occasions.  It is so enjoyable when everyone is free to play with everyone.

     

    My wife and I are closer than ever.  I love her so much.

  • View author's info Posted on May 27, 2018 at 10:42 AM


    My husband and I are both bi and we have a very satisfying sex life...been married for 14 years and best friends. The key is no secrets ever.....we play separate with same sex occasionally but always play together with couples and single strait male or female. We are as happy as we can be and satisfied!

  • View author's info Posted on May 24, 2018 at 07:46 AM


    I have been married to the same great lady for years. And yes I told he long ago That I was bi. She has no problems with it. She is the one that wants to watch me with another male. She is trying to sit it up

  • View author's info Posted on May 23, 2018 at 11:55 AM


    My wife probably wouldn't be surprised if she found out about me fucking around with other guys.... we've always been kinky with each other .. she likes fucking my ass with a big dildo or strap on.  Light bondage .. cum swapping etc

  • View author's info Posted on May 23, 2018 at 09:28 AM


  • View author's info Posted on May 23, 2018 at 09:26 AM


    I am kind of in the same boat but my husband does satisfy me. I am just bi-curious. If you are in or near Columbus,  GA I will gladly help you fulfill that need!

  • View author's info Posted on May 05, 2018 at 06:17 PM


    I am married my husband knows and is ok with me being with a woman. He prefers to keep that relationship separate from our relationship and doesn't want to have a 3 some but he supports me having the desire to be with a woman and still be with him. I am separated from my husband right now we are in a long distance relationship but we are still married and we visit each other but he lives in IL and I live in FL. I am allowed to see other people. 

  • View author's info Posted on Mar 11, 2018 at 10:06 AM


    I have been married for a decent amount of time. Over the years I wanted to have my wife try pegging me. I don't know why, but felt I would enjoy it and I did. The past year or so, I've felt I would like to experience being with a man. When I talked to her about it and said I am curious and might be bisexual, she said she had thought that for years. I am not a feminine guy, but do like to be smooth down stairs. She is very supportive in that she has been encouraging me to try sex with men and see what I like. She is not interested in being involved. Doesn't want to watch or have a mmf threesome or anything. I felt a MMf threesome would be a more comfortable setting, but who knows. We are honest and open with each other, that has been key staple in our marriage. Maybe one day I will meet the right couple or person to have this experience with. I was extremely worried and concerned how she might feel about me being with men or another couple. I felt she might think less of me as a man, or be repulsed, or chose to leave me because of my desires. She really surprised me with how she reacted. I have read so many counts of wives being completely turned off, or feeling repulsed or mad and leaving the husband. I am very fortunate to have such a loving and understanding wife.

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

  • View author's info Posted on Feb 11, 2018 at 05:20 AM


    Yes.....she absolutely does know and encourages it because she is the one who got me started in the bisexual lifestyle because she loves watching two guys having sex!

  • View author's info Posted on Sep 08, 2017 at 08:49 PM


    My husband has known since early in our 12 year relationship that I was bisexual. He has been accepting and encouraged me to begin the journey online to find women locally to fulfill my wants and desires. He is secure in our relationship and understands my sexual encounters with another woman doesn't reflect on him or our relationship in any way.  He explained he doesn't want to watch or join in. Of course if I come across an unicorn who wants to play with him then he could join us but my being on this site is for me and not him. 

     

    I read through the previous posts. I would like to comment I have heard many people feel strang about a guy being bisexual. I don't have a problem with/if my husband were bisexual. I love him and would honor his fulfillment of his sexual desires should he want to act on them.  Hell that could be hot to watch and be a part of. I guess each person has their own likes and dislikes however, I couldn't say I am bisexual and tell my husband that he couldn't or shouldn't. I want his sexual desires fulfilled. 

     

    We are a couple who have swung together, I have actually set him up to have sex with a woman while I was at work. I had to work overtime and knew I couldn't be there to participate. I did get there in time to get a good night kiss when I arrived home and she was leaving.  Then we proceed to have sex together after she left. He was harder than he had ever been. He was excited beyond belief. Which turned me on by his reaction. 

     

    I also understand I'm a unique sexual woman. I'm the hypersexual partner in our relationship. My husband has went to a swingers party with me and we had a wonderful time playing games into the wee hours of the morning and romping around nude in the hot tube with multiple couples.  

     

    We are to a new state of comfortable with one another and the enhancement our own sexual experiences through sharing what we want, what we fantasize about, and talking about our experiences. 

     

    I love myself, I love my husband, and I love to have sweet sensual sexual encounters with women and men.

     

    I accept that I'm misunderstood by my gay/lesbian friends who say I am in denial and I am gay and don't want to admit it. I could actually see me married to a woman as much as I could see me married to a man. However, I would still want to have sexual encounters with whatever gender I didn't have at home as I love both men and women. Each has/brings something different to the sexual encounter. May everyone find safe sexual fulfillment! 

  • View author's info Posted on Aug 29, 2017 at 04:43 AM


    I hear you. I becoming annoyed when he goes down. You are extremely into eating pussy or don't bother. Isn't that terrible? This is my husband. Just watching a clip with two women licking each other makes me soaked. Need to chat with someone who wants to play. Same desires

  • View author's info Posted on Jan 15, 2016 at 02:28 AM


    Yes my wife knows she is bi also and we have been having a lot of fun with it and gave talked about what we would like to see  done to the other by a woman or man. 

  • View author's info Posted on Jan 06, 2016 at 10:47 PM


    Yes my wife knows.  We told each other when we first met.  We found out that both of us are bi.  We are very open with each other.

  • View author's info Posted on Dec 23, 2015 at 12:20 PM


    Hello new hear been reading this forum I had one oncounter with a bi male he give be a bj and my wife does not know that , she knows I am  bi curious and want to try things but scared. I would like to try mfm and light bi curious things any help 

  • View author's info Posted on May 24, 2014 at 02:52 PM


    I am one of the lucky ones. My wife did know before our marriage and supported me. We have had several encounters with 3somes and more somes. At one point we had a 4some with my exwife, boyfriend(that the ex and I shared) and my girlfirend(current wife) Had a great time

  • View author's info Posted on Apr 30, 2014 at 10:12 AM


    My husband and I have found out recently that we both have some fantasy's.  He to be with another women and for me to join in, while I would love to have another women in our relationship as well.  My husband has always had this feeling though it never came up.  Now that we both know what the other is looking for while still being true to each other our sex life has gone from once a week to more then once a day and loving every minute of it. No one knows of our new found life style.  Looking for a women who is ready for some hawaiian fun

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