Married and bi - does your partner know? Bisexual questions

  • View author's info Posted on Jul 19, 2012 at 03:24 AM

    Are you bisexual and married/in a relationship? If so, does your partner know and does he/she care? Is your partner supportive, disgusted, excited, horrified, or whatever? Does he/she join in or want to join in with your activities?
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  • View author's info Posted on Nov 06, 2019 at 10:44 AM

    To all those that have a partner or spouse that is completely accepting of your or each other's bisexuality, how lucky you are ! My partner decided that I can't have a special woman freind. Thinking I would leave him. That's the furthest thing from the truth. He thought I could just have a " fling". Women aren't made that way.

    I completely accept him as he is & love him more than he will ever know. This has caused me much unhappiness, as its unfair. We no longer talk about it.


    Words of advice. Don't give your partner an unfair ultimatum that they would never put upon you. I am envious of couples that aren't threatened by their partners bisexuality, you are so lucky. 


  • View author's info Posted on Oct 19, 2018 at 02:47 PM

    Yes, she knows and is very turned on bi it all

  • View author's info Posted on Oct 19, 2018 at 12:20 PM

    Hi Paul Golden, I had forgotten about these comments and this section of this site.  Wish you lived closer to Austin and Cedar Park.  Like to find a normal respectful very clean guy nearby to get to know and possibly do some lite experimenting with.


    If anyone reading this section lives near Cedar Park of Austin and you feel the same and fit the description of who i'm looking for, please contact me some how so we can get to know each other online to see if we fit. 


    My membership ran out sometime back, so send me a message with your email address so we can exchange messages and photos.



  • View author's info Posted on Oct 01, 2018 at 02:34 PM

    You wife sounds like my ex-wife.  She was very open  to my curiosity and turns out that she was curious about being with a female.  We went to a swingers party and 99% of the women were bi.

    Many came onto her and she liked the attention a lot.  I was getting looks from this very hot young couple and i said hello and that started a conversation which led to the 4 of us sitting together.

    We danced with each others partners and we all got along so well.  The female was paying extra attention to my wife and kept touching her knee and upper thigh.  When my wife didn't react she asked if she had ever slow danced with a girl.  She said no with a grin.  She stood up and took my wife's hand and went out and slow danced.


    They eventually kissed.  He and i talked and watched.  He would occasionally touch my shoulder or arm while talking to me and was definitely letting me know he was interested.

    When the girls came back they suggested we go back to their place for hot tubing.  We had a same sex swing that knight and we all had fun.  My ex-wife said she actually got turned on watching me with him.


    Thought i would share a memory and maybe it might give you an in site that you hadn't thought of.  Mike

  • View author's info Posted on Sep 21, 2018 at 06:44 PM

    I left a comment on another one of your comments. My photos have not been approved, but once they are if you are still looking for someone to talk with, try the lets meet section. I would love to chat to see if we might have some mutual desires.

  • View author's info Posted on Jul 29, 2018 at 10:11 AM

    Thank you for that! Your comments are very insightful and comforting. 


    I've just come out with my wife and she's granted me a hall pass to begin exploration with another guy...If I ever find the right one.

  • View author's info Posted on Jul 22, 2018 at 04:12 AM

    Yep, he knows and is supportive of me fulfiling things that he can not give me. I wish for you that one day you can be open and honest with your wife but also totally  understand if you can not disclose this precicely because you love her...not an easy one. Thanks for creating such an epic thread btw!

  • View author's info Posted on Jun 29, 2018 at 05:41 PM

    Wow, I am very impressed by those of you who are out to your lovers and family. I wish I could come out as bi to my wife but I know it would end badly.

  • View author's info Posted on Jun 23, 2018 at 06:48 AM

    I've been upfront and honest about who I am with my husband forever. It is a part of me and he doesn't want to change a thing about it or who I am. He says he thinks it is beautiful that I can love so openly and honestly, without barriers like others may have.


    I always figured it was best to be honest and if he couldn't handle it, then he can't love who I am cause that is who I am: a bisexual/pansexual woman.


    On the flip side, I just came out to my entire family this year. I had to learn to program myself to feel the same way with relatives etc. Don't get me wrong, it hasn't been easy but, it's pretty liberating to let that go into the open and just go on with life, even if you lose a few shaky relationships along the way.

  • View author's info Posted on Jun 10, 2018 at 10:03 PM

    I've been married for 4 years and just found oit that my husband is bi.  I've had my suspicions for years but he finally just came out.  I am very accepting and if anything, this has brought us closer together.  It was a huge weight off of his shoulders telling me and he was so happy about how accepting I was of this.  Still waiting on our first experience but having fun looking.

  • View author's info Posted on Jun 05, 2018 at 10:31 AM

    I had always indicated i was curious and it was never really an acceptable discussion. When things died int he bedroom for several years I went an explored on my own, discreetly and carefully. I also got left to watch porn on my own and there was never a question of interest.


    Recently i came out and confirmed that I am bi, but still prefer women .... She said she is okay with the knowledge and hasnt discussed since. 


    All I know is that I am on my own in this and try to play responsibly and discreetly as she still wants not to discuss, support or participate. She hasn't said as much but she avoids it as much as possible. ...

  • View author's info Posted on May 28, 2018 at 07:57 AM

    I'm bisexual and my wife knows.   Several years ago talking to each other we talked about early childhood experiences....something we had never discussed before.  We had done some swinging early on while experimenting but have not in many years.  We have been to many nudist resorts and love them. So we are open minded.


    In our discussion about childhood experiences I told her about some play experiences I had with another male childhood friend. I was 14 and he was 17.  It was all just exploration but included mutual stroking and eventually some oral play.


    My wife said it didn't surprise her and a lot of kids explore.  As we talked I told her that I had always been curious and turned on thinking what it would be like again.  After all, it felt good back then.  I told her I had fantasies about it.


    Although she was not interested, she was fine with me exploring my fantasies as long as she knew who and when and that it was done safely.


    I have met several bisexual couples and found I really enjoyed it.  On couple I continue to meet on occasions.  It is so enjoyable when everyone is free to play with everyone.


    My wife and I are closer than ever.  I love her so much.

  • View author's info Posted on May 27, 2018 at 10:42 AM

    My husband and I are both bi and we have a very satisfying sex life...been married for 14 years and best friends. The key is no secrets ever.....we play separate with same sex occasionally but always play together with couples and single strait male or female. We are as happy as we can be and satisfied!

  • View author's info Posted on May 24, 2018 at 07:46 AM

    I have been married to the same great lady for years. And yes I told he long ago That I was bi. She has no problems with it. She is the one that wants to watch me with another male. She is trying to sit it up

  • View author's info Posted on May 23, 2018 at 11:55 AM

    My wife probably wouldn't be surprised if she found out about me fucking around with other guys.... we've always been kinky with each other .. she likes fucking my ass with a big dildo or strap on.  Light bondage .. cum swapping etc

  • View author's info Posted on May 23, 2018 at 09:28 AM

    Me too!

  • View author's info Posted on May 23, 2018 at 09:26 AM

    I am kind of in the same boat but my husband does satisfy me. I am just bi-curious. If you are in or near Columbus,  GA I will gladly help you fulfill that need!

  • View author's info Posted on May 05, 2018 at 06:17 PM

    I am married my husband knows and is ok with me being with a woman. He prefers to keep that relationship separate from our relationship and doesn't want to have a 3 some but he supports me having the desire to be with a woman and still be with him. I am separated from my husband right now we are in a long distance relationship but we are still married and we visit each other but he lives in IL and I live in FL. I am allowed to see other people. 

  • View author's info Posted on Mar 11, 2018 at 10:06 AM

    I have been married for a decent amount of time. Over the years I wanted to have my wife try pegging me. I don't know why, but felt I would enjoy it and I did. The past year or so, I've felt I would like to experience being with a man. When I talked to her about it and said I am curious and might be bisexual, she said she had thought that for years. I am not a feminine guy, but do like to be smooth down stairs. She is very supportive in that she has been encouraging me to try sex with men and see what I like. She is not interested in being involved. Doesn't want to watch or have a mmf threesome or anything. I felt a MMf threesome would be a more comfortable setting, but who knows. We are honest and open with each other, that has been key staple in our marriage. Maybe one day I will meet the right couple or person to have this experience with. I was extremely worried and concerned how she might feel about me being with men or another couple. I felt she might think less of me as a man, or be repulsed, or chose to leave me because of my desires. She really surprised me with how she reacted. I have read so many counts of wives being completely turned off, or feeling repulsed or mad and leaving the husband. I am very fortunate to have such a loving and understanding wife.