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  • View author's info Posted on Apr 30, 2014 at 10:12 AM

    My husband and I have found out recently that we both have some fantasy's.  He to be with another women and for me to join in, while I would love to have another women in our relationship as well.  My husband has always had this feeling though it never came up.  Now that we both know what the other is looking for while still being true to each other our sex life has gone from once a week to more then once a day and loving every minute of it. No one knows of our new found life style.  Looking for a women who is ready for some hawaiian fun

  • View author's info Posted on Mar 30, 2014 at 06:49 PM

    My partner she dose no but will  not have any part of it i have tryed to tock her in to getting a strap on with the with a belt  in vibrater  so she has enjoyment also so now all . I can do is dream about one in my tite ars ageen. I miss thoses days 

  • View author's info Posted on Mar 26, 2014 at 04:24 PM

    I am married to a bi/gay leaning man and I am totally ok with it.  I would like to have two amazing men in my life if we can find the right guy.  He's my best friend and guy on guy sex turns me on.  I have no idea why.  It is what it is.  I prefer bi men because they are just all around good people usually.  They are great friends and lovers.  And they are not homophobic which probably makes them more passionate and sensual.  Would be my guess.  

  • View author's info Posted on Nov 15, 2013 at 01:04 PM

    My husband has known since very early in our relationship.  I used to keep it a secret in previous relationships, but found I was not being true to myself and was quite often feeling less than satisfied overall.  I didn't want to pursue another woman in fear of making him feel like I loved him any less... but I'm now searching for a woman to make life complete after more than 5 years with my husband.  He's very accepting and excited even because he knows how much a woman turns me on.  :-)  The downside is finding the right someone... it can be very frustrating.

  • View author's info Posted on Nov 12, 2013 at 06:07 PM

    I am bi and my husband know and supports me. i've asked him his opinion and if he would ever want to join me and another woman. his answer for the last 3 years has been no. he's told me that it's not for him and he does not want to be included in my relationships with women, as long as i'm happy he is happy. i tell him when i like a girl or if i want to date her. he is completely fine with it. 

    his only concern is if someone hurts me he can't really do a thing because he doesn't condone any sort of violence especially against women. 

  • View author's info Posted on Sep 08, 2013 at 09:39 PM

    i'm married and my husband does not know that I'm bi-curious.  He has never satisfied me sexually and coma probably never will.  We've only had sex twice this year.  He doesn't think women are supposed to feel good during sex too.  I have dreams and fantasize about being with women and have no urge to have sex with my husband anymore; we are just house mates for the children's sake.

  • View author's info Posted on Sep 08, 2013 at 04:13 PM

    yes I am married and my wife does not know...i luv having sex with both men and women maybe some day i may share my secret...a hard man is good to find!

  • View author's info Posted on Sep 08, 2013 at 02:02 PM

    If you are bi and have an unaccepting partner Bail out now. It only gets worse and more frustraiting. hopefully there is some who will be turned on by who you are and what you like to do.

  • View author's info Posted on Aug 11, 2013 at 02:31 AM

    I am bi-curious woman and my husband is not at all supportive of me experimenting with other woman, which is making me feel so sexually frusterated. I told him that he could join or watch if that helps, he still said no.  This is becoming a huge problem for me to deal with:(
  • View author's info Posted on Jun 18, 2013 at 06:45 AM

    All three of the people I have been in long term relationships with knew that I was bi. It usually came up in conversation at some point naturally.

     My first long term relationship was with a woman, the second with a man (my ex husband) and third with a lovely man who was bi curious himself . Only the ex husband had some issues with it.

     I see no reason to hide the fact that I am able to love people of both genders, and couldn't imagine wanting to be that close with anyone who couldn't relate or at least undersand,accept,and be comfortable with it as normal and just part of who I am.
  • View author's info Posted on Jun 02, 2013 at 09:46 AM

    My wife is now letting me look for guys. She says she might join me later, which would be really awesome!! Now I just gotta find someone.
  • View author's info Posted on Apr 19, 2013 at 07:03 AM

    i have been bi for years and have found very few women approving of bi guys. Question for the ladies, what is of putting about bi guys?
  • View author's info Posted on Apr 10, 2013 at 03:24 PM

    Don't give up. They're out there. Have had 3 awesome g/f's that ecouraged and instigated me being bi, especially if they can watch. I also love getting a guy off orally. My present g/f is always encouraging me to just do it 1 on 1 even if she's not there. And, yea I've blown a few out but I want to up front, no sneaking around. So keep looking sexy friend. She took the attached pic.
  • View author's info Posted on Apr 01, 2013 at 04:17 PM

    I hear ya. My wife is there sane way.
  • View author's info Posted on Mar 22, 2013 at 03:18 PM

    I am bi and my husband knows nothing. We have a great sexual relationship. If he did know, he wouldn't fee the same.
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 07, 2013 at 03:54 AM

    We have  been married for over 30 years and are both BI.  We support each other and will only play together.  It's a lot of fun and we just wish we could find regular playmates in our area.  Our most recent playtimes have been MMF with an old friend.  Down side is that he lives 500 miles away so can't play very often.  We really want to find a BI couple close by for more regular play MFMF and all the fun combinations that can happen. 
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 02, 2013 at 02:09 PM

    We both know of and support our desires for same sex partners.  He's seeking his first encounter with a guy and I've been with women.  We both also support playing solo.  We trust and love each other completely and know that finding single or married friends with benefits is perfectly fine.  I knew that I was Bi many years before he came to his own realization.  It's very refreshing to be able to talk about it to each other.  I find it exciting to think of him with another guy or woman or couple.  I don't have to be there.  Same with my desires to be with other women and/or men. 
    I'm sad for those of you who don't have this openness.  We've been married over 37 years and are each other's best friend.  This is just one thing that we couldn't possibly keep from each other.  We are both too sexual for that.  I wish you all of the best in your quests.
  • View author's info Posted on Dec 24, 2012 at 04:17 PM

    I am not currently in a relationship, but have expressed my want for a bi-sexual lover, a man, to past lovers, all of which I thought would be open to it, but since I can't figure out women at all. SURPISE....I was wrong everytime.  It seems to me that it is okay for a women to be bi, but the man can't have such desires.
    I have gay friends that won't have any part of my bi desires, as I am not really gay, as they put it.  They are good people, and friends, I just do not understand why, and why I feel the way I feel.  I am here to try first hand what it is like to have a guy orgasm in my mouth, and will hopefully find someone soon, but who and when is making me crazy sort of since I am at a fever pitch as it is getting cold and raining more, which is my time to go out.  I love the rain.
    Don't know if this helps or has done any good. But who really knows.  Maybe I just am wacked out. 
    I think wanting to be bi, just might be harder than actually being bi.
  • View author's info Posted on Dec 23, 2012 at 06:46 PM

    No definitely not as it would immediately change our relationship. So this is something I do for myself to enjoy though I find that it is hard to find someone or a couple that is willing to accept me with this knowledge. I do understand and would never want anyone to feel uncomfortable. To those that have someone that it is an open understand I am happy for you.
  • View author's info Posted on Dec 02, 2012 at 08:10 AM

    I am bi. My wife is not. She did try the lifestyle for a while, but I suspect it was to keep me interested in her til we got married and had a kid, then she cut it off. We played w/ couples attended a swing club and a few parties, also enjoyed a bi guy together one time. She no longer swings. She joined me w/ a bi-guy that one time, so she knows I like men too. I have begged her for inclusion w/ me and another guy even telling her she could have all the men or women she wants. She's not interested.  She's not thrilled, but she understands I have needs that she is not willing to give me(strap on or swinging), or that she can give me(sex w/ a guy). I have begged her to get back into the lifestyle with me to no avail. So I am striking out on my own to look for a guy or couple. I have told her I want sex with a guy too on occassion. I have been completely honest with her. Other than her not being interested in the lifestyle and her decreased libido, our marriage is fine and sex is "ok". But i need more and different than she wants.
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