Five Tips For Coming Out As Bisexual
Mar 30, 2023
Being bisexual is something to celebrate but it can feel a little scary to share your sexuality with your family and friends. Coming out is a vulnerable process. You are choosing to share an intimate part of your humanity with people who love and care about you. That takes some major guts! Bisexual dating can be intimidating and, if you want support, you have to share your true self with your community so they know how to help you. We've put together a list of tips to help you in the process so that you can feel confident!
1. Practice Coming Out to Yourself
Before you're ready to go out there and take on the bisexual dating world, you need to feel comfortable and confident with who you are. Talk to yourself in the mirror about your newfound bisexuality. Write a letter to your younger and future self about the new journey that you're on. Imagine you are on a bisexual date with someone you love and tell them about your coming out story. However you choose to honor your bisexuality is up to you. Spending time privately to celebrate who you really are is a sacred thing and you can decide what that looks like on your own.
2. Practice Coming Out With a Close Companion
Once you've accepted who you are, you are finally ready to share your true self with the world. Make a list of your closest friends and family members. Who would you feel most comfortable with sharing your sexuality? Reach out to that person and tell them that you're bisexual. Start the conversation by telling them why you chose to share this information with them. Let them know how comfortable you feel talking about your sexuality and let them know if there are any topics that are off-limits. If you don't feel comfortable having entire conversations about your sexuality, simply tell the person that you are going to share that you are bisexual and that you don't want to make it a big deal. You shouldn't have to explain yourself or justify your sexuality. It is an intrinsic, natural part of you. If the person loves and cares about you, they won't care if you are out in the bisexual dating world. They just want you to be healthy, happy and loved!
3. Rejection Says More About Them Than About You
The reason coming out can be so scary is that others may choose to reject you. While this is a very ugly part of being bisexual, it is a reality for lots of people who are not part of liberal, open and affirming communities. Remember that people's cruel words and actions say more about them than they do about you. You have not changed and are still a beautiful person worthy of love. If others choose to reject you, that is the story that they are choosing to tell. Having an open and loving heart is much better than being closed off from others who are different than you. If someone decides to reject you based on your bisexuality, then they are showing you that they are not an open and loving person. While it may hurt at first, you deserve to be loved unconditionally.
4. Coming Out at Work
Coming out to friends and family is an integral part of getting out into the bisexual dating world, but what about coming out at work? Many bisexuals are concerned that they will be discriminated against in the workplace for their sexuality however, in the US, discriminating against people of other sexual orientations is illegal. You can share your sexuality with your coworkers formally or informally, either by sitting down with a close coworker and letting them know or simply referring to your new partner by their pronouns when talking at the water cooler.
5. Remember the LGBTQ+ Community Has Your Back
If you're feeling alone, just remember that almost 10% of the US population identifies as LGBTQ+. There are people in your area who know what it's like to be bisexual! Don't know where to start? BiCupid.com is a great resource. If you're looking to dip your toes into bisexual dating, BiCupid.com is a niche dating platform for people just like you. People on BiCupid are open and affirming of your sexuality. There are a wide variety of users who can help you as you start dating. Get the conversation going with a BiCupid user by creating a profile today!
Coming out doesn't have to be intimidating. You are a capable and brave person worthy of love and once you start walking in your bisexual truth - you will be unstoppable!